Hey guys. ☺️ I’ve literally just woken up from a dream where I was dating Zac Efron, I’ve never wanted the saying dreams do come true to be more real. Zac Efron’s a beaut. 😍 This post isn’t about Zac though, it’s about the ex boyf.
I recently wrote a post about my ex titled We Can’t Be Friends which as could probably be guessed, was all about why we couldn’t be friends.
I’ve decided now though that we can be friends. After he messaged me a couple of times, I decided to reply because I knew I would feel too bad if I didn’t. Not only would I feel bad but I knew I would be waiting for more messages from him asking me for a response if I didn’t.
We spoke for a little while, I was pretty blunt with him and never replied instantly, I felt he didn’t deserve me being too friendly with him. Then I didn’t hear from him for a week. I wasn’t bothered at all by this, although I did find myself wanting to message him on occasion but I felt I shouldn’t. I wanted to speak to him, but I would wait until he messaged me first.
We next spoke after I checked myself in watching the Blair Witch, he dropped me a message saying I was going to hate the film. I replied when I got home, being more friendly and chatty. We then continued speaking for a couple of days which has been nice, but I’m keeping my distance. I haven’t messaged him since Tuesday because I feel like talking everyday is too much for the time being. We need to keep it chill and relaxed.
I think being friends with each other is for the best, and is the only way to give our relationship closure. If we weren’t friends, I know I would feel worse because I’d be wondering when he was next going to pop back up, or I’d want to talk to him but feel like I couldn’t. Now I feel like I can talk to him whenever I please and not worry about it upsetting me or being a big drama.
It would be easy for me to say any romantic feelings for him have gone, but I still think they have the potential to resurface. This is more reason for me to keep my distance and not get too close. I don’t want the feelings to resurface, I want to move on, meet someone else and fall in love with someone new. I want to be friends with my ex, but nothing more than that.
I feel really content right now with where my ex and I are at. We have each other as friends and I feel really good about this. It really simplifies things and makes things a lot easier when it comes to moving on.
I still enjoy talking to my ex, and the times we have hung out this year I’ve always had a good time. Since I’ve known him I’ve wanted him in my life so I’m really thankful that we’ve found a friendship.
I understand now why people are friends with their exes. What’s the point in holding a grudge? There was love there once, why let it go completely?
I would love to know if anyone else is friends with their ex? Or if you’re not, I’d love to know the reasons behind your decision. Let me know in the comments below.
Thankyou for reading, love Jennie. ❤️ xxxxxxxxxxxxx