Hello my angels and welcome back to my blog. Today we have a different-ish style of post, focusing a little more on mental health, I just wanted to let you know that before you read on! This post is all about the mind, mental health and a little thing called intrusive thoughts. This post is designed to help and comfort anybody who may be struggling with their mental health and their mind, so if this doesn’t resonate with you then I totally understand if you wanna skip over this post and find something that does resonate with you, but this post was written with the intent to share my story and to help people so they know that they are NEVER alone, and through love you can get through anything, so if you do feel like this post will resonate with you then please feel free to read on and you’re always welcome to drop a comment down below if you need to talk. My comments are always open (obviously, hehe).
Here we go!
Thoughts are just thoughts, let them pass
Your thoughts do not define who you are.
I’ve seen a few posts on social media where people talk about having control over their thoughts as if they can be so manageable and controlled. Saying things like ‘if you knew how powerful your thoughts are you’d never think a negative thought again’ and whilst I do agree to a great extent, and I do believe we can certainly have influence over our thoughts, that’s not to say our thoughts define who we are or that we can have complete control over them 24/7. Sometimes, unwanted thoughts can creep in. And that’s okay. Because that’s not who we are. We are not our thoughts.
I recently discovered I was suffering with something called ‘intrusive thoughts’, basically, negative, unpleasant, unwanted thoughts that would seriously send me into panic mode and have me crying all day because I thought they made me a terrible person. I didn’t realise at the time that what I was experiencing was so common and that it’s actually pretty natural to experience intrusive thoughts, so because I was struggling with this thinking I was the only person going through it, not aware that this was a common occurrence in people’s lives (which I actually discovered to be the case through twitter and facebook, where I saw people posting about them) the problem got even worse as I was constantly trying to control my thoughts. Constantly beating myself up over them, inviting them in as I was trying so hard to push them away because the more I tried to push them away, the more awful I felt for having them and the more focus I was giving to them. I was trying so hard to fight them off therefore they were NOT going away because I was paying them so much attention as I was constantly worrying about them. Whereas looking back, I realise now thoughts are just thoughts. They don’t define me. What’s real are my actions, what’s real is the life I choose to live, the way I choose to live and living through my heart.
My counsellor told me, the worse I was feeling, the more these thoughts would creep up on me as just like vultures, negativity preys on you when you’re down. I was in a vulnerable place, therefore it was easy for these intrusive thoughts to breed in my mind because it’s like the worse I felt about them, the more they gave me to feel worse about. It’s easier to kick a man when he’s down, isn’t it? And that’s what was happening to me. Had I have been in a better place mentally at the time I started experiencing these intrusive thoughts (I was already struggling emotionally), I would have been able to handle this situation better and not allowed the thoughts to consume me but I was already so low, this knocked me down completely. Thankfully, I started visiting a counsellor who has benefited my life in a million ways and I am so grateful to her, and talking to her has been life changing in the most positive way. I know I can always go to her now, and she’s always going to make me feel better, stronger, safer. I advise anybody who may be struggling with their mental health to talk to someone, I was even prescribed anti depressants at this point when I was so down so I just want people to know that it’s absolutely okay to talk and to take medication for your mental health. As you would visit a doctor if you were struggling with your physical health, my loves, mental health is just the same and you should forever be proud of yourself no matter what you are going through, but I want you all to know it’s brave to reach out and get help, it’s self love to get help, it’s power to you to get help because you are taking your power back and coming into your light once more. Whatever you’re going through it’s okay, and it’s okay to get help. I promise. Seeing a counsellor was one of the best things I have ever done, and I can’t recommend it enough.
Back to the intrusive thoughts, when I was going through this I was devastated. I cried every single day, I’d spend my whole day in bed waiting for my Mum to get home just so I could cry some more and hopefully feel reassured by her telling me I was going to be okay (God bless my Mother), I felt guilty all the time, though I had done nothing wrong and I was constantly living in fear. As well as seeing a counsellor, I began to start learning to live through my heart centre rather than my mind. I guess you could say I began to live through my heart instead of my ego, which you can learn more about here. In our heart, that’s who we truly are. That is where divine love is alive, that is where we live as our best self. When we are living through our heart centre. I found myself turning to my heart centre and sending my focus directly to this energy point of love whenever I was struggling with my mind and mental health and I found this really helped to calm me. Even now, when I’m not struggling with my mental health so much (of course there are the times when I struggle but it’s more of a rarity now thank goodness- so I promise you also speaking from my own experience, it does get better my loves), I still aim to live through my heart centre because I believe that is where my true self lies, as my actions and my words are all coming from a place of divine, pure love. Living from the heart centre is calming, it is real and it is magic. When we live from the heart, we have no fear, as there is only love.
So many of us give so much power to our thoughts and whilst yes, they are a part of who we are, they are not solely who we are. They do not define us. Who we are, who our realest form is, lies in our heart centre.
When I’m struggling with my mind, I return my focus to my heart. That’s who I truly am. Pure love.
I would recommend to anybody who may be struggling with their mental health and their mind, focus on your hearts energy, consciously decide to live through your heart. Personally for me, that’s one thing I’ve noticed to make such a difference because I know when I’m living through the heart, I am who I truly desire to be and I’m so grateful for that. When I put my energy on living through my heart, that is when I feel calm and that is when I feel safe.
Think less, feel more. I want to highlight the fact that one of the key words in this post is THOUGHTS. That’s all they are huns, thoughts. As well as living through my heart centre and focusing my energy on my source of love, I discovered an amazing meditation by Aaron Doughty* which kind of simplifies everything and explains how thoughts are just thoughts. Basically, he puts it like this: just like the people who pass us in the street, we don’t have control over those who pass, just like our thoughts. Thoughts stroll through our mind just like passing strangers in public places and that’s okay. The good, the bad, let them pass and although you can’t control what passes, you can control where your focus goes. That beautiful thought that just strolled through your mind? Oh hi hun! Let’s pay you some more attention and focus on you! That horrible thought that just passed along? Bye Felicia, I’m walking away from you, LATERS, baby. Allowing it to pass with no resistance, letting it go gracefully. If you tried to fight that thought you didn’t want it would have stayed put, ready to fight back, just let the thoughts you don’t want stroll on by without a second glance just like you would do a stranger you didn’t want to speak to, knowing that that isn’t who you are, it was just a thought in passing.
Thoughts are just thoughts. Some of them amazing, wonderful, incredible, some not so great. Don’t give the power to the ones you don’t want, they don’t define you. I have given so much power to unwanted thoughts this year and it’s still something I am overcoming but it’s gotten easier as I have realised now that a thought is just a thought. It can only bring me down if I give it the power to but ultimately the best thing I can do for myself and the world is to continue focusing on being my best, most kindest self, learning from my experiences, helping others and living from my heart. That is where the power lies, in our beautiful, loving hearts! ❤️
*I recieved Aaron Doughty’s meditation which I mentioned above through an email link, the meditation is called ‘Raise vibration meditation’ it’s unlisted on youtube and I don’t remember where I found the link to be sent the email for it, but if you go onto his website here, there are links to other meditations you can recieve. He also has a whole playlist of amazing meditations on youtube here.
*I found all pictures through google image search, so all credit for the pictures goes to the original creators. I do not own these images.
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